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Pull It by the Root: Why Cutting Back Bitterness Never Works

August 14, 2026

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You can cut a weed down to nothing and feel like you've won. But if you left the root, you didn't. You just made more.

I've tried it every way. The shears, the mower, my own frustrated hands — knock it all down to the ground and stand back and look at clean dirt. It holds for about a day. Then it comes back thicker than it was before, because cutting a weed doesn't kill it. It prunes it. It tells it to multiply.

The only thing that has ever actually dealt with a weed in my garden is getting down in the dirt and pulling it up by the root.

A bitter root

"See to it that no one falls short of the grace of God and that no bitter root grows up to cause trouble and defile many." — Hebrews 12:15

Whoever wrote Hebrews was a gardener at heart, because that is exactly right. He doesn't say watch out for bitterness. He says watch out for the root of it — the thing under the surface, before it grows up and spreads and, in his words, defiles many.

That's what an unpulled root does. It doesn't stay put. It spreads to the people around you.

And I think most of the tiredest struggles of my life have been me, cutting weeds. Apologizing for the sharp word without ever asking why I was so angry underneath it. Staying busy so I don't have to feel the thing driving the busyness. Trimming the behavior back neatly while the root sits there, untouched, quietly sending up more.

It looks handled for a day. Then it grows back thicker, because I never actually pulled it.

The mercy in it

Here's the part the garden preaches loudest: you don't have to pull every root today.

You just have to actually pull instead of only cutting — and you get to do it a little at a time. Every time I walk out to my garden, I pull a few. Not all of them. A few, by the root. That's the whole thing that keeps the garden from being swallowed. It's the same principle behind staying ahead of the weeds with a small, regular tidy instead of waiting for one overwhelming reckoning.

The soul works the same way. You go down, honestly, to one root today — one real why under one real struggle — and you pull that one. Tomorrow, another. Not a frantic overhaul. A faithful, daily, get-your-hands-dirty kind of tending.

And there is a reason it matters beyond tidiness. In the garden, weeds compete for the nutrients your plants need — every one you leave is quietly taking something from what you're actually trying to grow. The unexamined root in us does the same thing. It feeds on attention and energy that belonged somewhere else.

Cutting is faster. Rooting is what actually heals.

One faithful thing today

Pick one thing you've been cutting — managing on the surface — and ask God, gently, what the root under it really is. You don't have to fix it today. Just stop mowing over it, and look at the root.


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Then tell me: one word for the root you're finally going to stop just cutting. I read every single one.

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Sanda Valcu

Sanda Valcu

Sanda is a writer, blogger, and podcast host who blends garden-rooted wisdom, everyday life, and faith into thoughtful, practical content for women. Through her blog and podcast, she creates calm, meaningful spaces that invite reflection, growth, and intentional living.

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